I’ve found this new website, Marry Well (not a person’s name!), pretty insightful and humorous.  This list is probably nothing guys haven’t heard already, but it’s a good reminder.  Women deserve the best of us, so let’s look and act like it!  Here is the list they give in order to avoid being “that guy”:

(Interlude:  One thing I’d add to this list would be to develop a growing attitude of selflessness – putting the other person’s needs/wants before your own in a way that is honoring.)

Give her your full attention.
When speaking with a woman, look her in the eye, listen intently and ask questions. If you’re shy, the more questions you ask, the more likely she’ll bring up a subject on which you’re well versed — and that can really get the conversation moving.

Develop interests beyond sports, gaming and science fiction.
For example, if the bulk of your conversation tends to revolve around March Madness, your Xbox 360 or your DVD set of Firefly, consider expanding your horizons. Forcing yourself to watch the full six-hour A&E version of Pride and Prejudice is a good start, or better yet, read the book (though the Hollywood version is better than nothing).

Shave or trim your facial hair.
Feel free to go wild with expressing yourself with a two-inch long goatee after you get married, but it often makes for a scary first impression.

Don’t be afraid of hair care products.
Think of American Idol judge Simon Cowell. Hair stylists all over the world lament his lack of hair gel. If you’ve ever seen the show, you know what we’re talking about.

Achieve a neat appearance.
There’s a fine line between being stylishly disheveled and just plain old disheveled. Rock stars may be able to pull it off. But the rest of us? Not so much.

Smell good.
Shower. Deodorant. Toothbrush. ‘Nuff said.

Be humble and sincere.
If you’ve made a decision to be with a group of singles, think more highly of the others than you do yourself. Simply don’t go if you have an ulterior motive or if feel you’re above everyone who’ll be there.

Of course we know this isn’t what makes a man. “Loving the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” is what makes a man. Just take these for what they’re worth, a few tips from Marry Well that may help you get beyond “Hello, my name is …” to the good stuff that follows.

Please, I want to hear your thoughts on this one.  And ladies, let us know what else we need to add to this list!